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My husband left me when he found out that I was having his child. He did not want it when I told him that I was having the child anyway. He lost his job and is now living with his mother. He is seeing someone eles and his mother likes the women. He says he doesn't love me or want me anymore. I could not understand how you can stop loving someone so quickly, we are married. I ask him what he was going to do, if he was going to file for a divorce or not? I told him I wasn't going to because I don't want one and that I did not married him to divorce him, and that I was willing to work on our relationship and that I love him and will be praying for him.
As time past he called me again I asked him the question again this time he said, hold on and that he doesn't know what he wants to do. Now I don't know what to do, file or not. I really want him home and to be back as my husband, but I don't know when its time to move on. I read that God hates divorce. Should I hold on or let go. His family believes that he'll be back when the baby is born, but will my feelings change or will he ever come back? Will it be to late?
Help me understand what the spirit is saying to me. I'm so confused on what to do I don't want to go against what God desires for me. I told my husband if he doesn't want me to let me go so I can go on with my life and raise the children.
What if I don't want a divorce and still love my husband, even if he has left to be with his mother and is seeing someone else? Should I get a divorce and get on with my life and raise my unborn baby or let him divorce me because I feel its his responsibility, not mine. He's the one who broke our vows, why should I make it easy for him? It's very hard to file a divorce and go through the emotion of it all. I had to file with my first husband and I really don't want to do it with this one. Help.
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I am praying for you and your family. God sees your situation and knows the pain you are in. He hears your prayers and his desire is what's best for you and your child. There are some important things to consider since the marriage vows no longer exist through your husband's adultery. What was your husband's attitude toward God when you were together? Does he listen to you; could to help him spiritually? Is there a chance that you could get him into counseling or to attend church with you? You don't want to return to a relationship that will further damage you and your child. If a spouse, who indulges in sexual sin, rejects God (the only one who can totally deliver them from lust) it's likely they'll continue in adulterous relationships down through the years. You don't want that kind of lifestyle and God doesn't want you in that type of relationship with anyone, it blocks His ability to bless you. Since God is the only one who can change your husband's heart and make your marriage work you need to throughly examine your options, putting your emotions aside, and make a decision that is right for you and your child. You must read: Does God Ever Accept Divorce? It is an answer to a dear lady's question whose husband left home. Read it in comparison to your situation. You will be able to decide whether your husband can be reached for God or not. The article will give you insight about God's Laws on marriage and when He permits or even desires for a person to seek a divorce.
I am giving you some links to other articles that will help you know God's Word for your circumstances. The more you know about God's way the better you will be able to make good judgment that will improve you and your child's life for the years to come.
God is love, therefore you must know that God loves your husband, He just hates the sin that he's committing because it's from Satan and separates him from the blessings that God has for him. If you get an opportunity try to lead him to pray for salvation and a new life in Christ.
If you feel in your heart you have a chance to win him for Jesus begin with these articles. I will be keeping you in my prayers.
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