Since he says that he still loves you, I would start by making preparations for battle against his relationship with the other woman. Start by setting a date night with him. Fix a special meal, make things nice, like when you were first married. Take the girls to a friends or grandparents over night. Make sure he plans to be with you and has time for this special evening. This should be the first of many! Give him something to look forward to.

Don't talk about the other woman ever again, keep her out of your thoughts, it robs you of your strength and priorities. It gives place to the devils work and he uses it to empower his purpose. Concentrate on your evenings with your husband and the future. Put effort into it, then his choice to stay with you will be easy.

Plan your first evening well. Set the right mood, music, lighting, it's all about atmosphere. He's looking for romance so give it to him. You already have the advantage of so many memories to pull from. Gather photos of the past, wedding pictures, vacations, the kids etc. Collect any material you can think of, so you will have something at hand to keep your date flowing when emotions run dry. If you have money get him a present, a token of your love. Even if he left you, he'll never be able to forget it. A woman wins and keep her husband by showing love along with compassion for when they mess up. Don't dwell on the mess up, dwell on the repair and making him strong again. She gives him a firm foundation in their relationship by spending time in teaching him God's way to do right. The teaching is important and must be "godly teaching" to keep them strong against Satan's lies.

You want to stir up his emotions for you just as the other woman did for herself, only your motives are right where hers were evil. It's you that he's been in love with for all these years and she doesn't know him like you do. So take advantage of what you know and make your next few months count. Give him reason to abandon her.

Every moment you are together have sweet, peaceful conversations with him, plan ahead, what to do and to talk about; be prepared, and pray for God's guidance. Plan to spend as much time with him as you can. Wherever he goes, go with him. Be his best friend and use self-control, watch your words. If he doesn't want you to go with him, give him an excuse why you want to. If your not with him guiding him at this time Satan will be. When you talk remember: No Anger! No Complaints! No Crying, Accusations, Blame, Fear or Condemnation, these emotions will weaken you in you fight against Satan and the bondage he has put your husband in. None of these emotions will change what has happened, so just show the pure love of Jesus to you husband no matter how you feel during this time. He will respond easier and faster if you use self-control along with compassion, just be Christ-like and give him the love of God.

When you have dinner, lovingly bring up the memories that the two of you have had over the years. Your love was the real true love, let him know this. Always remember that what he has for the other woman is lust disguised by Satan as love. That's where you have power over the situation. Read: Lust, What Does God Say About It?

God will give you the right things to speak at just the right time, so pray much believing in His ability to use you. If you still want to stay with your husband, take pity on him because Satan has devoured him.

1 Peter 5: 8-9 Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

Since your husband didn't rebuke the devil's thoughts of sin, probably because of ignorance, you'll have to do it for him. He's your husband and you are supposed to lift him up to God and fight for his deliverance, because he still loves you. If he didn't still love you it would be different.

James 4:7- 8 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you.

You have every right, established in heaven and earth to protect your marriage. If you're not saved go quickly to our salvation prayer page and receive Jesus and His power into your heart, then you will be equipped to handle demons the way Jesus commanded us to. There's no other way. You can't fight spiritual warfare by human earthly means. It takes God's spirit working through you to win spiritual battles.

Now start "verbally" telling Satan who you are in Christ, and that Jesus has given you authority over him. Let him know that you enforce the Word of God on him. He is to release your husband, separate him from this woman, return him to you and make restitution for the sin he has caused in your husband's life. Most Christians don't know the power they have in using the truth of God over their lives and the lives of their families. If we practice controlling Satan in our lives by using God's Word we gain freedom in everything we do. Continually praise God for what He is doing to repair your marriage and keep Satan under your feet where God has put him.

Romans 16:20 The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. The grace of our Lord Jesus be with you.

Jesus gave us authority. If we don't use it we won't see results. God doesn't do for us what we are supposed to do for ourselves. Our part is to do and say what is right according to the Word, and His part is to back us up and make it happen. There's a lot to be said for living righteous, standing firm on the Word of God, and having the security of God watching over His Word to perform what it says.

Jeremiah 1:12 The LORD said to me, "You have seen correctly, for I am watching to see that my word is fulfilled."

Matthew 16:19 I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven."

Matthew 18:18"I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.

If your heart and motives are in tune with God's then He is ready to back up whatever you say against any evil. Bind Satan and his works and keep on binding him in every area of your life as long as you live. Satan has to obey a child of God when they speak God's words and God's thoughts that are in His system designed for his children to live in. Satan will try to come against you but you continue until you see change. Get angry at Satan not your husband, he is just very weak and following Satan's evil instructions.

If you have a heart to rescue him, teach him about what has happened because he has acted in ignorance. Give him as much as he will take of the godly things that you know. If you don't know much maybe you can read some of my answers to questions or articles with him. God can deliver him as you read, even if what your reading isn't exactly about your situation God knows what will help your marriage and will heal your hearts as you read. This works, many years ago I was healed of a back injury just by reading about someone else's problem.

Your husband said he needs time and space to make decisions. It's not time to think that he needs. I've heard those words from so many spouses. They are from the mouth of Satan speaking through a person to completely sever a marriage. Don't let him have that time, don't let the devil separate you. Your husband has already proved what time and thinking will do! He doesn't know Satan is influencing his thoughts and fooling with his emotional system. Giving him free time will let Satan divide your marriage completely. You fill his time; you influence him about what he should think, he's your husband and his body belongs to you, that includes his mind.

1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

Move in close to him with love and godly influence. Smother him with all the goodness you have. In his mind, at this point, it's a contest between you and the other woman. WIN! Be the kind of woman that he can't stop thinking about. Use "Love" it's so much more powerful than the lust that she offers.

Encourage him to start a new life in the Lord with you. Let him know that God loves him and will guide him by going to our salvation prayer page and seeking help. Find a good church to attend, with a pastor who can help you with your problems according to the Bible. (Go to my resource page and learn how to let God bless your home.)

There are so many articles as well as answers to question that will give you understanding and power for deliverance. Here is just a few:

God's Power and Satan's Counterfeit

How To Help Someone Find God Without Them Rebelling

What Is Faith?

How To Solve Problems Using Gods Power

God Rebuilds Families Q & A

I will be praying for you and your family. Thanks for writing.