If you can talk to him with the love of Christ in your heart, get him to go with you to our Salvation Prayer Page and together give your hearts to the Lord to begin new and fresh in your marriage. Everyday, plan together time and ways to get into the presence of the Lord, either by listening to or reading the Bible together. Start with prayer at mealtime.

If you don't have the Bible on CD then do what ever it takes to get it. It will be the most important piece of equipment you will ever own. Play it while doing your housework and in the car. You don't have to get it all at once, just let it play, God will reveal to you what you need. Continue to play the New Testament many times before attempting the Old Testament. Let the Spirit of the Lord fill your home starting in the morning. Getting God's anointing early will keep you and your family in His protection all day long. It will give you the strength needed to resist the attacks of Satan.

Next find a good church, with a pastor that knows the will of God and how to lead his flock according to the love and teachings of Christ. (Read: How To Find The Right Church) Go as often as possible, the Lord will bless you as you receive His Word. Follow all the biblical do's and don'ts as you learn them and receive the promises that are attached to each one. A person's salvation is a covenant, or contract, with God and He is excited about keeping his part in blessing you and your family.

Begin to saturate your life and your home in the good things of God and use all your love and strength to involve your husband. Pull him toward God and forget the past. What you feed him spiritually is what he will end up being. Talk to your husband by being strong minded, tender hearted and lead him out of sin. You must pray for this balance of wisdom as you are working with him.

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

James 3:17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure (holy righteous in line with God's Word); then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

Check the wisdom you are using. Giving your spouse godly love along with what the Bible says will build their faith. As their faith builds they will have a desire to do things God's way. Just wishing they will change, even talking to them or pleading with them won't get them out of the bondage Satan has put them in; nor will begging God to change them. These are spiritual battles. Satan's work takes place in the spiritual realm and affects earthly people. Earthly people have very little power over "spiritual evil". But when we arm ourselves with God's spiritual weapons victory is swift and sweet. Jesus has already won it for us we just have to use our weapons the way God's Word instructs us to. (Read: The Armor of God)

God works through people who will receive knowledge and wisdom from Him, so give yourself to Him through prayer and reading His Word. It's His "Love Book of Instruction" to you. You'll find He works on your situation no matter what you study but finding the scripture that pertain to your circumstances and speaking them in faith will bring a quicker victory.

When working with your spouse never condemn them for the sin they have fallen into. Although it's tempting because we have strong emotions, it's absolutely wrong and will defeat your efforts. Satan is the author of condemnation. It's his evil works that produce condemnation in a person. We can never use Satan's works to reach godly results and receive His best. We are to use God's tools such as "Love". Remember your spouse as they were when you were first married. What they have become is a result of Satan tempting them. Be angry at Satan, trampling him under foot for what he has done. Godly love is what you want your spouse to taste along with the freedom that is in salvation and redemption. Condemnation will only drive them further away from you and from God. (You might want to read: Condemnation - What Does God Say About It?) Use faith by believing in the Word and that God will do what you ask. God works in our lives according to our faith that we put into action. We have to get that faith from His Word. If you don't know much of the word start to study so your soul prospers and use everything that you already know. (Read: What Is Faith?)

3 John 1:2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. (The Holy Spirit was speaking through John when he said this.)

Your soul will prosper when you learn God's Word and believe it. As you meditate on His Word it becomes part of your mind and heart. When opportunity arises you have desire to use what you've learned instead of using the world's way of doing. As the Word becomes part of your soul it comes out of you in faith, with power to speak and act according to God's way, just as Jesus did. This is what brings true results.

If your husband will not participate in any of these things, then you pour yourself into them and believe God for your husband to follow. Be the kind of woman that pleases God. It's the best way to get Him to move for your husband. The results will be so rewarding when he prefers you above all other women.

Many people are going through the same problems as you are but with God they are coming out. Marriages are being restored and made better than ever before. Satan wants to break up families and disturb the peace that God intended for them to have, but with perseverance the two of you will have a wonderful future together with Jesus as Lord in your lives.

Some of my answers to others, along with articles I have written, may help you learn. Pray that God will give you what you need for your situation as you read them.

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