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Hi. Well I am 22 years old. Have been saved and a christian for 3 1/2 years. I have struggled and now am trying to recover from an eating disorder. I came to your website while i was looking up some information on the internet.
Well I have been seeing this guy, well man. He's 33. I have never been with a person this much older than me, but honestly we get along pretty well and he's an active and youthful person.
We haven't really committed to each other for the long run, especially because of the rocky place I've been in for a while. I haven't had a relationship in 4 years and it's been hard for me to commit because I haven't felt prepared.
Before he was saved, which was only 1 1/2 years ago, he was in two serious relationships. The first one, which was several years ago, resulted in two kids. He was never married but I sometimes wonder, now that he's saved and trying to follow Jesus Christ, shouldn't he consider reuniting with that first person with his kids and being a family with them? I've posed the question of his kids to him but he seems to see it differently.
Maybe my thinking about this is not exactly right, but i was looking for guidance in this area.
We have only known each other for about 3 months, but things have been growing pretty fast with us and we have made mistakes that we are currently trying with God's help to fix.
Thank you for listening to my concerns.
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You must have faith in each other as well as faith in God. God needs to be at the very head of your relationship, so build your relationship on truth and honesty.
The relationship that he had with the mother of his children was based in sin, and they were both sinners at the time. Now that relationship is over and, it seems, neither of them are interested in rekindling it. God expects him to support his children, to be a father to them, but he needs to get on with his life in Christ. If that includes you, and you love this man, then keep your relationship holy until you're married and God will bless you. You say you've made mistakes and that you're trying to fix them with God's help. God always listens when we repent and try to do better, and he's faithful and just to forgive us when we fall.
The best advice I can give you is to keep building your relationship in the Lord and become strong in His word. My prayers are with you.
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