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I have been married 15 yrs this July. I think my husband is having an affair but will not admit it. I have spoken to this woman many times; she knows a lot about me and my family. I have received a call from someone telling me that they were sleeping with my husband. He says he doesn't know who it could be. I have heard voice messages from this woman on his phone. He says it's not her and he doesn't know who it is. My husband only admits to having a friendship with this woman; nothing else.
My heart and spirit tells me he is lying to me. What do I do? I love him with all my heart. One minute he says he wants our marriage to work. But then he says he can't do this anymore or doesn't know what he wants. I am standing on faith and believing God for full restoration of my marriage. Please advise me on how to handle this. I am on the tip of a break down. A
I have been praying for you and your husband. I believe that God is moving for him and by now you should be seeing the kinds of changes that only God can perform.
Years ago a woman at work became friends with my husband. She gave him gifts and brought food in for him. A friend of mine who knew her told me that she asked my husband to meet her somewhere, but he didn't go. He ended up bringing that woman to salvation and one evening she received the baptism of the Holy Spirit in her own home; just her and the Lord. Had I not been strong enough to be silent and pray for her she may not be saved and on her way to heaven. I never said anything negative about their relationship to my husband. That would have been planting a seed that I didn't want fulfilled. Prayer and trying to get the Word of God into him to build his faith is what's important. Then he will be able to receive from the Lord.
Trust in your husband until you have proof, or until he moves out. Pray, pray and pray some more. When you pray, do so believing in God, NO doubt, NO fear, believing that God is changing his heart. Confess what you want to the Lord and continually thank him for doing it. That is your work of faith.
What your husband does is not your responsibility. It is between him and God, no matter how much it hurts you. You, as a child of God, are to show him love. This is the best way to win a person for the Lord and find safety in a relationship. After all, who can resist a person who treats them like Christ would?
1Peter 4:7-11 The end of all things is near. Therefore be clear minded and self-controlled so that you can pray. Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God's grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ.
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