I have been praying for you. I don't know what I could say to ease your suffering, but I know that God can help you change this situation and bring peace to your heart. Do I think you could ever sort it out and get back together? Absolutely, yes, if you still want him after what he has done, and he responds to God's love flowing through you.

The most important thing you need to understand is that you have not done anything to make your husband have this affair! Nothing makes it your fault. That's a lie of the devil. God made everyone with a free will to make choices in every area of their own life. Satan takes advantage of influencing those choices just as he did with Eve in the Garden of Eden. (Genesis, Chapter 3) James 1:14-15 Each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. This is a process that Satan uses in the mind of human beings to capture them completely. Your husband yielded to evil thoughts and Satan caught him with the sin of lust. You were not a part of that process, so don't let Satan make you feel responsible for what your husband did. That's a trick he uses to rob you of the joy and peace God wants for you. Even if you weren't a perfect wife, your husband had no right to break his marriage vow.

What the Bible Has to Say About Divorce

1Corinthians 7:12-13 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.

If you choose, you do have the right to divorce your husband since he is not willing to live with you, and has left to participate an adulterous relationship. Your husband is the unfaithful one who broke the marriage vows by committing adultery. You are free to decide whether the relationship is worth saving or not. Some questions for you to think about are:

• What other areas of his life are under Satan's influence? Does he drink? Take drugs? View pornography? Is he rebellious? Angry all the time?
• Are you strong enough to maintain your family while you pull him out of the mess he's made?
• Have you tried winning him for the Lord before? How did he respond?
• Are you able to forgive him completely if he does come back? Unforgiveness will prevent you from having God's love for him, and can keep you from recieving all that God has for you.

"Sorting it out" is not the correct words at this point. Getting him back will be a tough, continuous spiritual battle because Satan has already gained so much ground. To change the heart of a man who has been captured by Satan's lustful spirits takes dedication to the Lord and a commitment to do what the Bible says, especially when your husband no longer lives in your house. God does have answers and will help you if you decide to try to win him back. It's something you should pray about at great length, without allowing your emotions to lead you.

1Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbeliever leaves let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances.

1Corinthians 6:16-17 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

Once the marriage vows have been broken a person is free to remarry if they want.

Matthew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife (or husband), except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman (or man) commits adultery.

When a person divorces they should give themselves plenty of time to heal. Drawing close to the Lord in reading and prayer along with good church fellowship will help to speed up the process. Then when a person is strong again and clear minded they can begin to seek God for the perfect mate.

Choosing to Fight

If you decide you want your husband back, it's going to take a spiritual fighting attitude so put on the full armor of God. To have a sound peaceful marriage, you will have to win him for the Lord, otherwise he will still have those lustful demons controlling him and he'll do this again and again. Lustful spirits drive a person they possess the same way other demons drive a person to drink, cuss or smoke.

Only God's love can bring your husband back, and that love has to flow through you and your girls into him and change his heart. God's love is the first and greatest commandment and it is the only thing that drives Satan out of these kinds of situations.

Matthew 22:37- 40 Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments."

God is focused on building strong families. He created the first family, Adam and Eve, and has been blessing his family, the church, for centuries. God's word gives us our wedding vows, which are a covenant relationship between a husband and wife with God, in which God himself is the head of that marriage. God also rebuilds broken families. God sees what has happened to you and your children and He wants to help you with your situation. He is able to restore all that Satan has taken away from you and wants to bless you abundantly.