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I have been married for 34 years to my first and only husband; we have 4 children and 8 grandkids. I know he's been unfaithful be just can't prove it. In our relationship it is more of a room-mate atmosphere. In the years of marriage its been more of a verbal and mental abuse. I left my husband a total of 5 times. I kept going back believing for changes that was promised. This time I went back, but I really don't want to be there. I believe I'm living a lie because I don't LOVE him any more, I weep because I hurt in my heart; to me I'm wasting both of our time. I love him in a Godly manner only. I see changes with him but my heart is not there any longer. What do one do in such a situation as mine?
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Your marriage is not over. God wants to rebuild your marriage, but it will take both of you. Since your husband wants to stay with you and he has already made changes in his life, God will continue to help him, and rebuild your love for him. It's not necessary for you to know his past, do your best to forgive and forget. Keep you mind on building the future and what God will do for you. If you and your husband will read our article together on How To Find the Right Church, you will both learn how to find a place where you can finally grow together as a couple and in the Body of Christ. Since you are both trying so hard to rebuild your marriage, doing things God's way will change the feelings you have for each other in your hearts.
After reading the article, go to our Salvation Prayer page and, together, pray and dedicate your lives to the Lord. You need to read your Bible together, pray together, and put God at the head of your marriage. You can find resources online that you can enjoy together that will help as well. God loves you so much and is so eager to start your marriage new.
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