A man who has just had an affair is not a man with a strong mind or a moral set of values. He has sinned not only against you and God, but the Bibles declares that this type of sin is the only one that a person commits against himself.

1Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.

This is a severe condition for any person to be in and they should not be put in a place of authority over anyone until they renew their mind with the Bible. It doesn't seem that he has any spiritual strength. Should he be making any major decisions in your life or the lives of others who may be involved, such as family or good friends?

You didn't give me enough information to really help you, so I will give you some questions that you must answer that will help you make up your own mind, and you can decide what's best for you.

• What is his purpose for the move? Get an in depth answer from him. Is the affair really over and he wants to escape embarrassment, or is this move to continue the affair (or maybe to start a new one)? You have to find out what's in his heart before you make any kind of move that could possibly destroy your life.
• Is his relationship with you repaired? Examine his values at this time of your marriage and try to help him, but don't let him pull you away from God.
• Does he have a definite place he wants to move to, or is it just any place other than there? Why?
• What attachments does he already have to the new place?
• Will your lives be secure there, with family, friends, jobs etc?
• How difficult will it be for you to adjust to the new location?
• Will he be taking you from people who are your support system in this trying time?

If God is in your life, has your husband turned to God also? If not take him to our Salvation Prayer page and encourage him to give his heart to the Lord. Then he can begin to grow in God's forgiveness and grace.

If this move is not the best thing for your family then maybe you shouldn't move. Do you have a church where he can get counseling? If you don't go to church, then start to go whether he goes with you or not. We always look for a Church of God or Assembly of God because they are Spirit-filled and will give you the best guidance.