Yes you can use my name, but in some way I prefer that you give God all the glory for the things I have written. When I go back and read the things I wrote I know that it was the spirit of the Lord that helped me and not just me alone.

Thank you for your appreciation and may God truly bless you.

Cherie

Yes it's OK. What a man and his wife does in their own bedroom, with each other's consent, is permissible. All acts should be done in love and never to be abusive. Never confuse the acts of lust that the world accepts as love with the tender, cherished love that God puts in the hearts of a married couple.

Love acts between a man and his wife should be full of eagerness to please their spouse with love, affection and joy. By putting the other person first your own pleasure will be increased.

Pray together everyday and especially when you have a specific question concerning your marriage this will allow the Holy Spirit to guide you. May God bless the two of you for a long and prosperous life.

The person that I feel that is most qualified to help you is Gloria Copeland. She just seems to know how to build your faith to the point that you will receive your complete healing. Saturate yourself with the word of God using her books, CDs, broadcasts and videos along with your Bible. There is so much material on the KCM web page to fill your heart and mind daily. Those teachings will lift you right into the presence of the Lord, where he is waiting to heal you. So change your lifestyle to incorporate these valuable lessons morning, noon, evening and throughout the night. As these lessons penetrate your spirit and soul the promises of God will begin to push out Satan's activity. The curse can not exist where God's spirit abounds. (Study: Deuteronomy 28)

Speak the authority that God's salvation has given you over Satan and the curse. You rule over him so make your stand known. Speak, taking authority, in the name of Jesus, over every thing Satan begins to try. Learn to stop what he is attacking you with before he sets a thought in your mind or a feeling in you heart. Walk by faith in what God says in His Word not what you think, see or feel. God's word says he gives us a sound mind. It's on a legal document "The Bible", so you have it whether or not you feel like you do. Begin to use it. Satan can't take it from you unless you let him. So keep his thoughts out and fill your mind with godly thoughts.

If you can get to one of Gloria's healing services, do so. There is great benefit in corporate prayer and extra power of the Holy Spirit when she lays hands on you. If you can't go to one of her services, watch her healing services on KCM Media Archives. When she prays stand before the Lord as though she is praying to God especially for you and receive your deliverance and healing at that time. It's your faith coupled with your actions that God will honor.

Do everything that the Word tells you to do; faith in our actions is what gets God's attention. Follow Gloria's teaching in how to think, speak and act, according to the Bible. She knows how to please God and is eager to teach you. Many Christians please the Lord but but not to the point they receive his miracles and healing. So start on your journey of saturating yourself with the power of God's Word and learning how to use your faith to receive healing and deliverance for your life. Take note of your progress at the end of each week as you look back at the events that took place. It will make you stronger for the next week. Day by day and month by month you will become victorious and strong in the Lord to the point you will be able to help others.

You are totally right. Allowing him to stay in the house with you and your children sets a bad example. It shows approval of his adultery, not only for your children but for other relatives and neighbors. Remember you, as a Christian, have the Holy Spirit living inside you. Does He want to be put in this situation? No!

2 Corinthians 6:15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

Your desire to make a stand for righteousness in your life is commendable and God will reward you for it. Adultery is the ultimate abuse to a spouse. They have replaced love and dignity (the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect) with lust, shame, disgrace, humiliation and loss of self-respect. I say this because of this scripture.

1 Corinthians 6:18 Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. (Amplified Bible)

Satan knows that even though adultery degrades a person on the outside, as other sins do, it's the only sin that degrades a person inside. It gives him power over a person's soul. The soul of a person is their heart (the area of desire and choice), mind (thoughts, mental evaluations) and emotions (feelings and expressions). Satan separates the spirit of that person from God's spirit (which connected at the time of salvation) and re-connects it with Satan's spirit, which is the sinful nature that we are all born with (due to the fall of Adam).

When sin of that magnitude moves into the soul of a person and is not removed immediately, through repentance and a changed heart, it increases Satan's ability to control that person in a greater way than with all other types of demonic influences. Whatever strength that a person may have in their heart or mind to resist sin and temptations deteriorates quickly; rendering the Holy Spirit helpless to intervene for them when they are in trouble.

He has treated you in a violent manner by giving away what was cherished by you.

1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.

He has mistreated and disrespected you and now wants to continue by sleeping in your home. His conscience has been seared by his sin.

How Should A Wife Or Husband Respond To An Adulterous Spouse?

Any person who desires to re-enter into a marriage contract (which him sleeping in your home would appear to others to be) where the adulterous spouse has decided to continue in their adultery, is going against God's word.

1 Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people. "Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."

God is extremely strong about how we conduct our lives since we are His temple. No Christian is ever to subject themselves to the abuse of an adulterer!

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Your body is how you think, speak and act. Everything we do should be in accordance with God's Holy Word. It's good for us to have his Bible as a measuring stick for the situations of life.

1 Corinthians 3:16-17 Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God's temple, God will destroy him; for God's temple is sacred, and you are that temple.

Scripturally from studying the marriage and divorce laws in the Bible, adultery is the only act that totally sets a spouse free. There is no longer a contract of marriage when the vows are broken. The injured spouse is fee, even to remarry if they choose.

Matthew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

To give him a choice to leave or come back is fine. However, if he comes back you must insist that he base in on God's Word not just feelings for you and the children. Unless he repents and his nature is changed to a godly nature the lustful spirits that took him over will only hide for a little while. I am praying for you and believe God will bless you. Thank you for writing.

Absolutely the offended spouse has the right to divorce if they choose. It's right in God's eyes because the wedding vows have been broken and marriage bed has been defiled.

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Matthew 19:9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.

Adultery releases a spouse completely from the marriage contract and allows them the freedom to remarry if they so desire.

1Corinthians 6:16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute (anyone other than a spouse) is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."

Intimate relations are reserved for a husband and wife. When that same relationship occurs, with someone other than a spouse, it severs the marriage vows and connects that person with a prostitute (a male or female outside God's expressed word). A person can only become "one flesh" with one person at a time. If the person with whom they are uniting in sexual relations is not their marriage partner then that union of "one flesh" is unholy and detestable to God.

It's a violent act when a person commits adultery against a spouse. They give away what belongs to their spouse.

1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

More of God's view on sexual immorality.

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.

Colossians 3:5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.

Proverbs 6:32 But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself.